I'm 22 and for the first 16 years of my life I never really had a male figure to look up too. It never really bothered me "that much" until I started dating. You see I was raised my grandmother and she never really talked to me about dating granted I never asked. What she did tell me is to respect women and treat them like I wanted to be treated. Never raise my hand to a girl, always be courteous to them, so forth and so on. Well now I'm finding out that, that doesn't work to win a girls heart now-a-days. Now I'm not tooting my own horn when I say this but I'm tall, dark, and hansom, I'm in the military so I have a good paying job, I'm in shape, I'm taking college classes, and I do ton's of self improvement stuff as well as volunteer.
However- I'm sure most would say I don't have a very interesting personality "honestly most people don't really know me", I lack confidence "which I understand is huge". I go out of my way to help others Because honest I love helping others. It just makes me happy know I made someone's day brighter and hopefully they'll pass it on. Based off what I've read and what I've been told being too helpfully to girls is an unattractive quality; because they will start to see you as a door mate and/or a lesser man. "honestly I lose out to the bad boys, a**holes, and players all the time... but I never give up".
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Growing up without a Dad will have an impact on a young man, but so will growing up with an abusive or unloving father . . . Sometimes absent is better . . . My fiance's Dad died when he was 3 and he didn't get along well with his step dad so he lived with his Grandma instead. He spent most of his teenage years surrounded by women in his family. Sometimes I really wish for him, that his Dad was still here, that he got to grow up knowing him. I know it affects him although we don't really talk about it much. I'm sure there are some core things that would be engrained in him if he'd had his Dad around. He's a great man despite this and I can tell he tries really hard to 'get it right'. I also know he'll be a GREAT dad, because he wants his kids to grow up with a good Dad. You sound like a lovely person. A smart girl knows a man helping people is a good man, NOT a doormat. If you ever have a women treating you that way then she's not worth the clothes she's wearing. You know you have all of these great qualities so have confidence in that when meeting new people/asking women out. People say you have a boring personality? What a freakin joke, who the heck are they to say?! Chin up, smile, know you're worth it and live that way.1