I am a full time mom, full time college student, and work about 30 hrs a week at work. I have tried to date but guys seem to not want me because I am so busy. Yeah I have my kids all the time my ex moved to another country to be with his now wife and their two kids. So what am I supposed to do?
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It isn't going to be easy, so keep your expectations realistic.
You need to figure out how many hours a week (and days a week) you could devote to a guy. Do an honest evaluation. Realize that there IS a threshold, and under that threshold, it's probably not worth it, for him OR you, to date if you can never see each other.
How long do you need to be in school for? How old are the kids? You don't need to answer us, but you need to think about those things.
When a guy wants to date you, he is going to actually want to DATE you. That means, spending time with you alone, talking, being romantic, etc. That doesn't work if he can only see you 30 minutes at a time, or if you are being constantly interrupted by your kids. That's just the reality.
It may be that you will need to find an outside babysitter for the occasional date night. It may even be that you simply don't have enough free time to date right now, and that you'll have to wait until you are done with school and have more free time, and when your kids aren't quite as dependent on you. I know that sucks, but your decisions have consequences, both positive and negative. Being in school means the potential for better, higher-paying, or more rewarding jobs, but it also means potentially sacrificing relationships for a while. Is that worth it? Only you can answer that for yourself.0