I randomly started thinking about this.
It's a rare thing for a guy to like a girl and him he THE ONLY PROBABLE CHOICE that the said girl has, as a choice for her boyfriend.
Whether guys flirt with her, or actually get to know her in a dating-type aura, or guys that SHE has interest in...it's rare for the girl to have that said guy that is (or was) her boyfriend as her only male choice she ever had at that moment.
So my question is, ladies...out of the guys you liked, or were "talking to", or "dating", or expressed interest in YOU, at the time you were getting to you know you current / previous boyfriend before you made it official...
...what made you choose your current/previous boyfriend, and thus turn down ALL those other "guy-options" you had?
What did your current/previous boyfriend do, or not do...say or not say, that made him the "choice" you made out of all the "guy-options" mentioned above?
Reply as much as you like. I had no problem being lengthy so you can answer in a lengthy fashion as well if you want.
It's only fair, right? :-P
Thank you for answering. :-D
P.S. Guys can input as well if they so choose
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I really like aggressive, "go-for-it" kind of guys. Straight-up, honest, and to-the-point.
Most guys shy away, beat around the bush, and I guess, try to take it slow. I suppose it's become a common belief that girls like guys who respect their space and don't try to jump into things right away.
I was surrounded by a few guys potentially interested in me when I started dating my boyfriend, but there was really only one big difference, and that was that none of these other guys ever made it very clear they were interested in me. They never really went for me.
My boyfriend met me on a Wednesday. He got to know me the next two days, and he really made an effort to get to know me. We met because we worked together (I had just moved into town) and he would show me the ropes, and while doing so, was super friendly and made me so comfortable being there. That Saturday, after a shift together, he asked me what I was doing for break, and I said I wanted to eat but didn't know anywhere good nearby (I don't eat fast food). So he offered to take me out to eat, and we went out. I went unassuming, thinking he was just being friendly. But when he paid, I sort of took it as a hint, and on the way back, I realized that I was becoming attracted to him without even realizing it. He had shown an interest in being my friend first, and through that, I found that I really loved being around him. He gave me his number that night, and we hung out a couple days later, and soon, we were officially dating.
I guess my point is this. My boyfriend later told me that the second he saw me, he knew I looked interesting and that I was worth getting to know. And once he'd talked to me, he knew he wanted the chance to date me. He explanation was, "So I did." There was no question about whether or not he'd have me.
He was entirely confident, direct, and it just completely caught me off guard. He was polite and foreward at the same time, and it was very much like being "swept off my feet" in a contemporary way. He just made a great first impression, and it hasn't faded.3