Do you get attention more on a dating site or in real life?
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It's night and day for me, real life. Online also requires some ridiculous effort where real life is pretty effortless. In real life you can walk up, say hey how's it going or make a comment about something specific to the situation and it's a conversation. Usually they'll respond if for no other reason than to be polite, in which then your personality has a chance to shine through and set yourself apart.
Online that isn't the case at all. I've noticed with a short message, about half will even click on my profile, and of that very few will respond. There's no social etiquette online in that regard. Plus, a profile is nothing more than a checklist of things to find an excuse not to talk to somebody. In real life, if you walk up to somebody and talk to them, if they find you attractive enough they will give you a shot. What your hobbies are, musical interests, job, life goals, etc. none of that is known to them and it would be impolite to ask. However, online it's the opposite. If you don't answer these questions on your profile you come off boring and have nothing to say for yourself. You are expected to write a ton of things out. Those things are in turn used to "filter". The thing is in reality, you don't have a chance to do that. Once you've already given the person a chance, if you like their personality, you're more likely to overlook the same difference you would have "filtered out" online.
Overall, I get a ton more attention in person because I'm quick witted, smart, and confident. I appear calm and easy going but genuine. Those sort of things can't really be conveyed online without forcing it, which goes in the face of all those traits.1