So I'm a member of this adult dating site recently and I'm flabbergasted by all these 20 somethings hitting on me! lol. I've even had a 18 year old try. Now I'm 38 years old and I've been off the market for 14 years. What on earth has changed boys? I mean I really like it but I get a complex that my body isn't going to be hot enough for them. Why are younger men hitting on older women now? Pleaseeee enlighten me! :) Oh, and should I have that complex about my body?
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It's a few different social changes interacting with each other.
For one, this generation of girls grew up on Disney princesses. So it seems like there are a lot of girls who want to be princesses and have these "prince-charming" and "Edward Cullen" standards for men, despite us entering an age of equality.
Think about it, we live in an era where unmarried women out-earn unmarried men, yet "going dutch" is considered to be the worst first-date mistake. Because "A man who doesn't pay for me is cheap." (What does that make YOU then?)
So we have a lot of girls saying "you should love me as I am, no matter what". Or more specifically "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." Yet then they turn around and say "I deserve nothing less than a 'real man'." and expect guys to change for them. Or fantasize that they can change "the Beast" into "the Prince".
I'm not saying this is "just how girls are", nor am I necessarily saying this is the majority. It's just become the "popular standard". So by choosing an older, more experienced, and less pop-influenced woman, we feel we would be appreciated more for who we are and less for things like status. So oddly enough, an older woman seems to have a newer perspective.
There's also more pressure these days to go for women outside the popular standard. But there are some things you just can't "socialize" out of guys. For instance, it seems like most guys would prefer an older woman with a healthy body over an obese but younger woman.6