It almost seems like society things that girls are obligated to date anyone who asks or expresses interest in us.
My friend wants to date me but I don't want to date him but all these people say I should give him a chance because he's "nice."
I think this is ridiculous! Why should I date someone I don't want to. Would you date someone you aren't attracted to?
Do you want someone to give you a chance, not because they want to but because other people consider you nice?
This is so weird!
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No, you definitely shouldn't!
You should never date a guy because you feel obligated. I see too many girls who get caught up in going with the flow of what's around them, and that just seems to cause more problems for everyone.
That said, it is good to be open-minded.
You may have a hunch that you and a guy aren't right for each other, because there doesn't seem to be the right chemistry at first, but that's proven incorrect later. I've seen that happen a number of times...two people learn they have a strong chemistry, who didn't realize it until they'd gotten to know each other better. Chemistry is weird like that.
I personally try not to give much weight to first impressions...unless it's an objective criteria (there are some things I pretty much know won't work).
So it's really this balance, I think...you should try to be open-minded for your own sake, but you shouldn't let others tell you what to do.
In other words, be stubborn for the right reason, and give people a chance for the right reason. It's all about your attitude and outlook.
And also consider that it's usually the guy who has to put himself out there...
Would I go out with someone I wasn't necessarily attracted to? Probably yes, if that girl went out of her way to make the first move (which almost never happens). Why not, it's not like it's going to hurt.
It has nothing to do with me "giving a chance" to someone else because they're nice. It's because it's a free opportunity. Maybe it's not much of an opportunity, but it still doesn't cost me anything! The only thing I have to concern myself with is not to get the other person's hopes up or hurt their feelings. Pretty much, all the initial emotional investment falls on the person who makes the first move...and that's why it sucks being a guy...
So, let me ask you...what are you actually giving a guy by "giving him a chance"?1
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