I have recently developed feelings toward my female boss. I work at a small business and her husband is my second boss. I see both everyday of the week. I am 23, she is 37 or so. I am typically attracted to older women, and have dated one.
Oddly I have worked here for 2.5 years but over the past 2-3 weeks my feelings have gone from occasional "you look pretty" thoughts to another level, bordering utter infatuation.
Part of the issue is that she will often flirt to get people to do things, and I have accidentally stumbled upon some suspicious beyond-plationic texts with a co-worker so I feel like a have a chance; making matters much worse.
This is turning into a problem. I want to go back to not really caring for her, and not thinking about ulterior motives when she flirts to ask me to do something.
I am considering giving her a platonic oriented valentine if I can hold my feelings in. After that I'll see how things go and maybe offer a text-message confession of my feelings requesting help, perhaps a single friendly hang-out.
Any ideas? This was mostly me venting but any comments would help immensely
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It's thin Ice because it is where you make your money. I am sure she would be flattered and blush. Who knows how that would go but I would hate to lose my job over messing with the bosses wife. It may sound really far fetched but let's say she DID take you serious. Ping pong texts. She reluctantly decides to take you up on the "hang out". Next thing you know you hang out a lot and she steps outside of the marriage. You are at her place... Hubby comes home early and catches you. Least that happens is you get fired. He might just shoot you in the face.
There are so many more women in the world with less strings and less danger. In the end you will do what you like but be prepared to deal with the result if this thing goes badly.