For a while, I had been bi curious. Eventually I got up the guts to meet someone to experiment with. I've been with a couple of guys already. Very much enjoyed each time as I found it really hot. I felt this was as far as I would go with men. Keeping things secretly sexual.
Recently I began to think about what it would be like to date and actually have a relationship with a man. It was just a simple thought, but the more I thought about, the more the idea began to appeal to me. Keep in mind I've always dated women and I'm not questioning my sexual orientation as its irrelevant at this point.
All this is very new to me and I wonder how I could do it as the concept is so different then what I'm used to. The most recent relationships I had with women did not turn out too well. So I've figured why not?
I do have concerns as this takes me down a whole new road. It's not just casual fun anymore, but serious commitment. This would mean that eventually I would have to come out.
Has anyone else ever felt this way before? Despite never having any attraction to men in the past, to becoming curious and fooling around, to actually considering a full blown relationship with one?
Anyone have any advice as to what I should do and how to interpret this?
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You do realize (please tell me you realise) that so called "mostly straight" men, do not date other men? Or fool around sexually with them? Or want to? Or ever think about it?
Trying to be tactful as possible here, but it's pretty obvious that you're either gay or bisexual, and to be honest, it looks far far more likely that you're gay and just really having a hard time coming to terms with it. Perhaps you live in an area which is really not gay friendly, or perhaps your sense of identity is wrapped up in a thick hetero blanket, and you'd be more nervous than anything about coming out to friends and family.
Advice - start dating guys, if that's what you think you want to do, and if you think that is what would make you happy. Give it a shot.
And how to interpret this? Have a long hard think about yourself, and be prepared to realize / admit / accept that you're gay.1