My wife had a child with another man before we were together. She then dated another man who was not the father but her friend before. They dated for about 2 years and ever since he has been apart of her daughters life. The father splits time 5050 with the mother. Now I am her step father. Should I be okay with ny wife still being in contact with this guy? Should I be okay with him visiting my stepdaughter? Is it okay for her to travel 4 hours to visit his mother with the stepdaughter? Not once have I met this guy or his family. Am I wrong for wanting them to go away?
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I think you are partly over reacting! No he isn't the father but he was there when the father wasnt! she knows him as family! I think it's fair for him to be able to see her, treat him like an uncle not the father! as far as letting her travel with him, yes I see your concern! have you actually sat down and talked to your wife and this friend to try and work something out? maybe he's willing to work something out! like around certain holidays/school breaks or whatever he's allowed to visit and see her! it doesn't hurt to have him around a bit, don't kick him out of her life unless he gives you a good reason to! try and compromise, although you are married to your new wife you have to remember biologically your step daughter is just as much his daughter as she is yours! but mentally, and emotionally I'm sure she's just like your own, and did you ever think that maybe how he feels. if he's been there since the beginning he probably has strong feelings for her...feelings any parent or relative has for a child they love!1