We went on our first date, everything was great, I know she was really into me. We talked for a few days after and after about 5 days she stopped replying. I was angry at first but then stopped caring because I knew I hadn't done anything to drive her away.
Fast forward a week, I was like wtf, I want an honest answer as to why she disappeared so I sent her a message saying it would be nice to know what happened. Surprisingly she replied, sincerely apologizing saying she's been working a lot because she's just been promoted and recently she's been sick. She also said she hasn't been intentionally avoiding me and that I've been on her mind. We talked a bit and she said she's off work this whole week and to let her know when we can hang out. Yesterday I told her Wednesday is good for me and several hours ago I texted her for her address. A few hour later she replied: "So sorry for the late reply, I've been at work dealing with an emergeny shipment. I don't think I can go tomorrow, I'm terribly sick with the flu and can barely talk. You can hate me though :/ " I have a feeling she's basically saying good bye, she's not interested anymore. What do you girls think? That's for reading this!
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Too bad you have to go through this. We're always hoping to go out with people who are honest and sincere but it seems like things get messed up anyway. Don't give up though, say what you feel when you want to communicate with people you want to be with. But is this someone you want to be with after all? I understand that you really like her but she's not responding in the way that you would like her to. So wouldn't you rather be with a girl who is just as eager to be with you? Who looks forward to seeing you like crazy? This girl sounds really busy and it probably gets nuts when you get a promotion etc etc. My opinion is that when you care about someone you fin time to see them, simple as that. But things are not just black or white! I have certain friends who love me to bits but who are spacey and can't juggle too much at once and just focus on work and seem to ignore me. I've confronted them but they insisted that it is just pressure from work and that of course they care. Heck the guy I have something going on with, who can't stop showing me and telling me how much he cares, he actually said he's too lazy to get up and come meet me a few blocks away. I know he cares and that he's a good person but I can't go with that. I can't allow myself to be with someone who has different priorities in life. So I agreed to go out with someone else who makes an effort to see me and is happy to do so and franly so am I but we shall see! So don't take it personally, instead take it easy and realize that it doesn't matter whether she's truly busy or justwants to be friends: the only thing that matters is the fact that she can't make time for you and life is too short, you gotta find someone else to enjoy it with cos everyday is unique and should be enjoyed! Give her space, focus on your hobbies and on spending time with other people and don't text her too much I mean I would give her one more chance but that's it. I'm not saying that in the sense of "playing it cool" I actually mean be cool and let someone else make you happy. YOU! And your friends:) aaaand that other girl you've sorta vaguely thought of asking out ha ha Someone out tere will be so grateful to spend time with u!:)1
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