My fiance is the type of guy who's always been with pretty girls and they've f***ed him over. Then I guess there's something about me that drew him to me but I'm not I guess, pretty like the other girls. He really does love me but sometimes I have issues because I know I'm not sexy or have the most beautiful body compared to some girls he's dated but he says it doesn't matter. I'm no where near fat and I have an okay face but sometimes I just feel plain.
Is that something I shouldn't think about if he's happy? I have asked him this in the past and he just shakes his head and says I'm slow :/ So I kind of leave it at that.
I know it would be a plus for any guy to have a super sexy model chick with an amazing personality but what would make you happiest? A girl of your dreams but with an ugly heart or just a regular cute-ish girl but has an amazing heart?
Just curious :)
Most Helpful Guy
As a guy about to hit 30 I can say that in my late teens early 20's I and every other young guy my age was so concerned with looks that a hot girl could put me in a state of mental intoxication. Unfit to operate heavy machinery, let alone get to know someone. Sad to say, some of us never grow up, often due to circumstances we don't exactly choose, such as a simple lack of good advice/guidance.
To address your situation however, I can boil it down to a basic rule that serves me well in general but especially in relationships:
Only ask a question if you are going to believe the answer.
If you start asking a question over and over you are inadvertantly telling someone that their words do not carry much weight with you. Ask someone once if you are going to believe their answer and then hold them to that answer. It is all about trust, and in a relationship more than almost anything you have to be able to communicate clearly without any mind games.
I have to give myself this talk quite a bit, and I still mess up, but the important is I work at it. I understand you feel intimidated by his past girlfriends/hook-ups/whatever but I can say from experience that in a strange way having experience with extremely attractive women is very settling for men. It feels like such a shallow thing to care about, but there is a part of you that no longer has something to prove. You are then able to treat finding someone you are attracted to as a good starting point for a potential relationship... not the "target acquired" routine that seems to seems to dominate college parties. It sounds like your fiance appreciates having someone he is attracted to and is genuinely connected with.1