guys (girls can answer too), if a girl agrees to exchange photos (normal photos) via email with you but before she send you her photos, she sends you a "warning" about her race and that she is a little bit chubby. and if he's still might interested then she will send her the photos. What would you think?
I do this to protect myself and to give the guy a little warning, you know, since I know I'm not what most guys in my area want. so if they are looking for girls from a specific racial group or really can't tolerate chubby girls, they can just leave me alone. But I also think this makes me sound insecure, which I am, when it comes to my appearance and first impressions. If a girl you've been talking to online says this, what do you think it says about her?
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it does make you sound a little insecure. not there is necessarily anything wrong with it.
I think you should work on your confidence not to send out this disclaimer. It's really an unecessary announcement that doesn't protect you either way. If a guy gets to know you to the point that he's ready to see pics of you and vice versa then if he can't deal with your race and weight then that's on him.
In future dealings try to find organic ways of bringing up your race. Either mentioning in your profile or somehow alluding to something in your life that will shed light on your race. But it does come across a bit insecure if a girl sends that as a precurser to sending pictures.0