My 29 year old boyfriend's one. He is very sweet and loyal to me. We have great dates. we get along very well, the s*x is awesome.
But his mother.. Overprotective psycho. She once stood outside my door for 5 hours because he didn't answer his phone. She calls and yells when we're on a date and don't answer our phones. She eventually gets all nice again, borderline bipolar behavior. Not to mention she plays the "I'm alone and sick" card. Which is not true.
Another time we were at the cinema with some friends. She called us over 20 times. When he called back, she made a huge scene and told him that he HAD to meet her in 30 minutes so that they'd go to the market. He left in the middle of the movie.
I understand that in normal situations, having 30 missed calls is alarming (and totally acceptable in cases of emergency), but having them every day is just exhausting. We do try to ignore the calls, but having my phone off or silent is impossible (as other people may need to contact me), so we have to deal with our phones vibrating for half an hour. Not to mention the very rude texts.
Basically (and I know this is an awful thing to say) it's that kind of manipulative person that you just wish didn't existed anymore.
He does argue with her when she does those kinds of scenes, but I'm bound to hear from her all over again. Him living in her house doesn't help.
I'm a full time med-college student, so I still live with my parents. He works, earns a bit more than minimum wage, so he could rent a small apartment. But, from what I heard, momma's boys like the financial security of their mother's house.
So. If you are a momma's boy, what goes through your mind when your mother does that? Also, why do you subject to her erratic behavior? If you date/dated one, how do/did you deal with this?
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That's not just mama's boy, he's completely whipped. Leave a movie to go to the market? Are you kidding me? If he was 21 it'd be one thing, but 29 and still can't tell his mommy no? This is going to be a life long problem for him. Yes she sounds terrible and I wouldn't wish her on anyone either, like you said, At the same time though, you're submitting yourself to this situation. If you two were to marry, she would be your family. Could you handle that? You must care a lot for him to put up with that, but it all sounds much to exhausting to me. If I were in your shoes, I'd tell him that some drastic changes need to happen, or I'm just going to have to move on. Sad but true, that would definitely be a deal breaker for me. What happens in my relationship with my guy is just between the two of us. His family doesn't come first, my family doesn't come first, the family us two are creating, comes first.2