So I'm 18 and this guy is 22. We met online and have been talking for about a month now . We get along really well through text. He kept asking me to hang out so Friday night we went to a coffee shop for about an hour, it wasn't really a date but rather just hanging out talking. It was extremely awkward. I'm really shy so I couldn't tell if he was into me or not but he kept playing on his phone and being all cocky. Then he texted me later that night and said "goodnight sorry for being so awkward" I replied and said "its OK I think I was more awkward than you" and he said "no you were fine definitely shy though lol it's cute". He didn't text me at all Saturday, Sunday, or Monday and hasn't yet today either (its Monday). Is he into me or not? And also during that hour he Iike didn't really make eye contact, didn't say I looked nice or anything like that. Kinda just acted like he was too cool to be bothered
Idk if I should text him or if I should wait for him to text me? I don't want to come off as desperate and be that girl that doesn't get the hint. But I also feel like if he didn't like me or w/e then he would've never texted me afterward. Thoughts?
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he could be shy and he did say he was awkward which probably explains his lack of eye contact. the playing with his phone and being cocky may have been two things. Either he is a bad communicator and like a lot of phone addicted people practices many anti-social behaviors with his smart phone OR he could have been trying play a little hard to get or seem like he isn't infatuated with you (it's called devaluing where you feel like he cares less since he's pre-occupied so you will try and get his attention).
I think his not contacting you could be a wait and see tactic to see if you will reach out to him. I'm fairly sure he's into since he texted you after the date. You could reach out to him if you feel like you want some answer or to see him again but I don't think his lack of a contacting you really reflects on you1