I knew this guy for 6+ months but we only dates casually for three during that time we only went on a few dates. He ended up breaking things off because he thought I wasn't independent enough. Well he didn't exactly end things he got really distant and after days of me prodding he finally admitted what was bugging him. Then he said he wanted time to think about things I haven't spoken to him since February 10th. I've been trying to give him space but after 10 days it seems like he was just trying to find a way out without saying he wasn't interested anymore. The thing is I really miss him and I was thinking of texting him and asking either where he stands or if we could be friends. But I've been refraining from doing so because I don't want to come off as desperate. Thoughts? Advice please.
I should add that he once told me guy and a girl can't be friends.
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Contacting him will definitely make you seem desperate.Guys like to avoid confrontation like the plague,so some often choose the phasing out way of approaching things.If you contact him,all you will be doing is confirming what he already believes about you...that you aren't independent.
Now,My final words on it:
Don't EVER and I mean EVER wait on a man to decide whether he wants you or not.If he was so willing to let go of things the first time around,he WILL do it again.When someone ends a relationship or dating..whatever,they are doing it because they don't see it working,and they would rather date someone else.Clearly,you like him a heck of a lot more than he likes you.Say that sentence to yourself a couple of times,because its TRUE.He has you hanging on the edge of your seat,meanwhile is going on with his life,and very possibly seeing other people.Also,he may not get back to you...or may be nonchalant about doing it.
If I were you,I would leave the situation alone and not try and get him to come back to you.You should never want somebody back that so easily threw you away.Value yourself more than that.Take his feedback,and if its true,work on improving yourself for YOU first,and also for your next suitor.This whole situation sounds wack,and I wouldn't even bother with this guy...good luck.2