I have always been an independent woman and I feel kinda bad with the guy I'm dating showering me with all these things. Nothing material but trips and massages, pedicures, concerts, dinners, lunch, sauna etc. Or is this just a cheap trick to get me in bed with him help?
I think so he did say he was scared of commitment and wouldn't make me his girlfriend so is this the reason
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I don't think a woman can be "tricked" into having sex, unless the guy lies with the L word. Anything else is just a mutual agreement to enjoy a mutually beneficial relationship; whether long term or short term.
Men and women often want different things from a relationship. I am not saying we do not want the same thing, but we don't often want the same thing in equal parts. A man will lean more to the physical part of a relationship and a woman will lean more to the mental part of a relationship. Each has benefits that meet the other gender's needs, but often the primary focus is at opposite ends of the spectrum.
I think everyone knows that usually men want sex, and usually women want security. We each use what we have at our disposal to achieve our goal. So if he is using GIFTS, that is what he thinks is the best thing he has has to offer to trade for what he wants. Maybe it is wrong for him to use girts to seduce you, but maybe it is wrong for a woman to withhold sex to get what she wants.
Not really, but my point is neither is wrong unless someone is lying.