I'm 23, in medical school, and have never dated or kissed anyone

I am an Indian-American who went straight to college from high school and then to medical school. I have never been asked out, dated or kissed. What can I do to change that? I am not the kind of person who goes to bars in the evenings... I just keep worrying that I will be alone for the rest of my life


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Most Helpful Guy

  • join a club (not bar or dance, but like a hobby club), a church, or some volunteer effort. Make friends. You have to get out and meet people, which need not involve bars or drinking. More importantly, you have to learn more about yourself. When you learn more about yourself, people will want to learn more about you.

    That said, I finished engineering school four years ago. I didn't meet or date anyone in college and struggled with the idea after I graduated.

    Ironically this Indian-American girl I met at work was amazingly hot. She wouldn't go out with me though. I was sad.

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What Guys Said 3

  • You're going to med school. You must be around other people. Have you tried making yourself more available to them? If you all you do is go to school, study and then go to bed, you're not giving yourself enough opportunities.

    If you do not wish to meet someone at med school or you think isn't any opportunities there, you might trying going places where you have fun. People seem more approachable when they are having fun, especially when two people are enjoying similar things.

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  • In short you have to force yourself to be social...u probably work so much in your studies (a common trend I noticed in Indian culture who are 1st or 2nd generation Americans) that your social life is below average.

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  • what do you think of a guy who is 25 and is in the same boat as you are? Although I have kissed but I am still a virgin

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    • and be glad you don't have to approach

What Girls Said 2

  • I'm going to suggest you make a profile on a dating website. Not because I think you'll meet the man of your dreams on one, but because I think you need flirting practice. You don't want to practice on the people you see in class everyday and who will be your future colleagues. You don't have time to hit the bar scene. And it's easier to be brave online. Just message people trying different tactics. Tell yourself "this is an experiment" and it'll help you take risks because it won't feel so much like you are being personally rejected. You may or may not meet someone worthwhile online. The goal is to learn how men respond to you when you say and act different ways.

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  • Im 19.. starting med school next year.. hopefully... never kissed, never dated.. not that i've not been asked though...

    when i get attached, it hurts to move away... so my plan is around a certain age, go on a vacation and date... and i'll leave without getting hurt.. "NO STRING ATTACHED"

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