My girlfriend and I were going out/living together for about 2 years. Our relationship faded really bad over the past couple months, and I emotionally checked out. She noticed and it was painful for both of us, but it was a rocky relationship the entire time, we weren't happy so we decided to end it. Really, that's not a "bad" break-up IMO. However, since I had emotionally checked out months before, it was quite easy for me to move on, but we were still living together (not sex or anything, I know, dumb idea). Regardless, I started texting a girl soon after, and of course I didn't tell her I was doing this, even though we were broken up, I wanted to spare her feelings. while I was sleeping one night, she read my phone, saw the texts, and babam... I am an unfaithful montster who caused her mental breakdown and made her get committed to the mental health unit. By no mean was I "right" to start texting someone new, but c'mon, am I horrible?
- I told her she is important to me, which is 100% true... she feels I lied... can she not be important to me while I text another girl?
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You're not a horrible person. But if I were in her place, I'd feel bad and I really wouldn't like you that much anymore. Just try to look at things from her perspective, maybe she had a feeling you would be able to work things out? Did you officially break up and then still lived together or did you "mentally check out" and live together without an official break up? Because without the break up being said out loud, she could still have the feeling you were together, you could work things through or something.
So I understand her feelings, but I don't think you're a horrible person at all.1