My boyfriend has a friend who's a girl who he's known for 3 years. He talks to her about everything pretty much CONSTANTLY everyday (from the time they wake up to the time they go to bed), even says she's a "bro".
I use to check his phone a lot in the past because he would continually text ex-girlfriends and girls he's slept with.
He started deleting entire conversations with this girl and it really is bothering me. I haven't checked his phone in WEEKS because we got in a huge fight because I just wanted to play a game on his phone and he grabbed the phone away from me and deleted his conversation right in front of me.
I asked him about this and told him it bothers me even though I stopped completely reading his texts (until this morning which I checked out of random) he said he does it because he doesn't want me to get upset about the things they talk about.
Well, my question is if the things he is talking about are so terrible about me should he be talking about it in the first place?
This really bothers me because I have guy friends who I talk to and I have nothing to hide, from whether I'm complaining about something he's done to asking advice. He reads my text messages and gets upset when I talk to guys... but yet he frequently hides from me...
Most Helpful Guy
I think if he's been friends with her for three years you should actually be happy. For a guy to have non-sexual female relationships is a great sign that he doesn't simply see women as sexual objects. Perhaps he has deep conversations about personal stuff or perhaps it's things about his relationship, either way he is entitled to have relationships and discuss things outside of you.
Really what you should consider is, would you rather he only have female friends who are former or potential sexual partners? Maybe it brings about feelings of jealousy but as long as he is honest about his relationship with her and honest with you in general you should try to be patient and understanding.
Now if he starts behaving strangely or you suspect that he is cheating on you that is another thing but as long as he is simply texting you should try to trust him0