I have been dating this girl for some time now. I am usually the one initiating conversation she is usually responsive and when I ask her out I get a yes or she reschedule for a better time. I just can't understand why she doesn't text me or call me every now and then.
Why don't women initiate texting or calling ?
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If she's rescheduling and continuing the conversation with you, then your probably still in good standing. She's most likely just very insecure or old fashioned.
The reality is most women don't initiate anything out of a few simple fears.
1. Fear of rejection
2. Fear of looking to clingy
3. Fear of bother the person
4. Fear of being to easy
5. Fear of having a bad reputation for being the pursuer (see #4).
What funny though, is that aside from #5, is that guys fear all the same stuff. I just think it boils down to ignorance and laziness. Some girls just feel like guys are these fantasy creatures with no fears, no insecurities, no emotions, and are beaming full of unmeasurable confidence. Obviously that's not true. We battle the same inner wars you girls do, we're just forced to overcome it, which leads me to my second point. Many women who suffer from the fears listed above, are unwilling, too lazy, or not courageous enough to overcome them but instead of figuring out how to, they lean on the crutch which is history and gender roles. They're too afraid to initiate so instead of chalking it up to her lack of confidence, she'll instead justify to herself that she is a girl who shouldn't pursue so that she doesn't feel so bad about being insecure. It's essentially an excuse that women have held onto when they want to get out of anything that's tough with regards to dating. Basically its a game of chicken to see who will flinch first, but the girls always win because society forces the guys to flinch.4