Question: "I gave him my number, but he hasn't called yet, why?".
Answer: "Maybe he just lost it"
Question: Sometimes he doesn't respond to my texts for days, and then he says "Sorry, I've been busy". Why?"
Answer: "Maybe he really is just busy"
Question: "My girlfriend's been coming home late from work all of a sudden, saying she's been catching up on excess workload. I've also noticed she has a password on her phone now, when she never used to. Could she be cheating?"
Answer: "No, she's probably just working late, and maybe she just has a nosy co-worker. You're making a big deal out of nothing."
Instead of saying "He wasn't really interested" or "Nobody's THAT damn busy" or "Yeah, might want to look into that, dude". I keep seeing people make excuses for others.
I mean, I understand that yes, it's POSSIBLE that dude just lost her number. But is that the most likely reason he hasn't called? Is dude really SO busy that he can't find twenty seconds to respond to a text message? Is a sudden change in behavior to be overlooked simply because it's unpleasant to think about?
I think there's a little part in all of us that wants to believe in the good in people. That wants everything to work out in the end. But I think sometimes we let that selfish desire get in the way of the most likely explanation, and let false hope live where skepticism should be.
I'm guilty of doing this with my personal friends, but I think I keep it to a minimum here. Anonymity and lack of personal interest in the situation make it easier, I think. Do you make excuses for others? Why or why not?
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Yeah, I do. It's easier to say: "honey, he's just not that into you" to someone you don't relate with. But when my friends have issues it's like: oh maybe he's this or that, he's not cheating, how can he cheat on a wonderful girl like you?"
Though on here I'm not keen on saying it as well, only when it's really obvious. Because I don't know the people and there may be another decision. I usually give some reasons what could explain the behavior .1