Well here it is. I have been dating this girl for like 4 years and we got into a argument (we usually get into small ones). But a few weeks ago was her birthday, but a week before her birthday I said "I got you a gift" and after that she bugged me over and over asked what it is and did I get one. After a while I said "No" She got mad called me a liar and what not and told me to leave. So I left or whatever and now it has been a week and she has not texted me. She probably texted me once but we got into another argument during that time she texted me during this period. But on top of that I stopped texting for 2 days. No reply and it has been bugging me. so I texted her today, Tried to ask her what she wants, no reply. I sent her some money I owed her Via paypal. Then she said "Got the payment thanks". I replied "So what do you really want" No reply.
At this point I do not know what to do. I am about to give up. I don't want to do "wait til she texts you first" I doubt that crap works I feel like some people don't care or miss people no offense no matter how much us guys try to not text MOST girls the girls will either not text us first or will say "You never try to talk to me" Which is BS
So any suggestions anyone? I can do the "not talk to her" tactic but I worry if she will even try to contact me.
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For starters that seems you are in a big mess, and it's understandable that you're confused.
Well it is annoying if she insisted to know what the gift was if you're a surprise-type of person, But the issue here is: if you actually were telling the truth about already having her gift.
You should've been clear and specific about that: (1) if you just said "no" to shut her up but in truth you actually have her git, and (2) if you lied and after all you never had a gift to start with.
If the answer is the one then it's easy, you just have to clarify her that and it'd all be better.
If the answer is 2 is normal that she got sad even upset, you are her boyfriend and she felt deceived and you lied to her. That shows that you were in panic and wanted to make her happy for a sec there by saying you have a gift but the bad part is: you just lied to her easily like if it was normal/nothing. Wich by logic means it's a common thing you do to her, and if you don't you'll do very often in the future.
Anyway wth is wrong with in asking: what do you want? Did you even apologized? Obviously she wants a boyfriend that doesn't lie to her!
In both ways I believe (i'm not sure) she's being "hard to find" because -since she believes you lied to her- she feels you don't care about her, so she wants to know if you care enough to go after her and insist in showing how much you love her and how much you are sorry for the situation.1