She's seemingly been pulling away, texting less, cancelled a date, and I normally initiate 'I love you's' and sex
I've been hurting a ton because I rarely see her and texts take forever to get back, I feel unappreciated despite my attempts to woo her
I know now to give less etc but maybe its too late...
I'm driving an hour to see her tonight to get this off of my chest, how do I approach jr without sounding needy or insecure or whiny?
If we do talk about these real emotions, do we really even have a chance?
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I don't think girls do this thing where they don't text, don't say I love you's unless their feeling have faded. I think the more you try to win her back the more she will take you for granted and try less.
There is also the possibility that she feels super-confident in your relationship, totally trusts you and is just simply busy, but it wouldn't explain the lack of initiative.
It doesn't mean you don't have a chance, and it's worth talking it out, but if you want an honest conversation you need to make sure you can take no for an answer.
Just be cool about what she tells you, tell her what you feel but don't be emotional about it. Just say it as it is. ''I rarely hear from you and I'm not sure I'm getting back what I'm putting in into this relationship. It is hurtful when you cancel on me, if I knew earlier I could make other plans. You get my hopes up and crush it - it doesn't feel heartwarming and doesn't feel how it should''
You have already told her you like her, and you love her - change something now and don't tell her these things this time.