I've been dating this guy for just under 12 months now. He & I definitely like each other & neither one of us is seeing anyone else (or has since we started dating).
We've discussed exclusivity and decided to keep things casual (non-exclusive) for now since neither of us is in a place where we're ready to settle down (+ we're both really busy & don't have the time necessary to devote to a serious relationship), but we have a lot of fun together. Point being, we both know we're non-exclusive.
My question is, why then does he give responses like these to questions guys ask him about me:
Guy: "So, is she your girlfriend?"
A mutual acquaintance hugs me as we're leaving from a party.
Him: "Dude, what the hell?" (I keep walking, he stays & confronts our acquaintance). I was out of earshot but there was definitely a serious/tense exchange going on.
Him talking to his uncle about me on the phone (I can only hear one side of the conversation): "Yeah, she's kind of a girlfriend..."
He's also very quick to announce "We're dating," to any of his guy friends that inquire as to what we're doing together or who I am.
So what's going on here? Help me understand, guys. He knows we're not exclusive & yet he operates/responds in a way that limits my dating options (by kind of making it look like we are exclusive) when we're out & other guys show interest. He's not a controlling person (known plenty of those), so I'm sure it's not that. I'm not expecting him to pimp me out to other guys or anything, but I just find it kind of odd the way he responds.
Guys: Under what circumstances would you claim someone was your girlfriend (if you knew you guys weren't exclusive)?
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It' fairly safe to say that after twelve months of dating you he's developed feelings for you, perhaps an emotional bond, especially if you are consistently intimate with him. That said, you can't put a label on what he feels for you. Most guys are territorial about the women they care about; his actions and responses are indicative of that.
In his eyes, you are his, because of the bond and history that's established.2