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Hello :) I am a young black girl, junior in high school. I grew up in the suburbs, so I guess that's why I am attracted to white guys more. I am attracted to black guys but not as much. I have never had a boyfriend, no drugs, still a virgin..blah blah blah. But I would love to date a black guy. don't know why...I just don't think that they would date me. Why is that? Is it because of the stereotypes of black girls? I mean honestly, were not all ghetto and loud. At my school, a few of the white guys are attracted to the black girls but I never see them approach them.
I KNOW this white guy at my school likes me, but he never does ANYTHING. I just feel like there's no hope in dating a white guy or any other race, know what I mean? I know a few black girls that like white guys, but are afraid of rejection. I am light-skinned but I know some white that also like dark-skinned black girls. I'm just really curious. For those white guys out there, would you date a black girl? Like I said, we aren't ALL ghetto. I hate how society stereotypes black people and other races. I don't care how anyone looks at me if I do date a white guy, it really wouldn't matter. And that whole thing about how black parents don't approve of their sons/daughters dating a white guy is total crap. My mom would love for me to date out of my race and explore the differences of dating out of my race, but maybe that's because she's mostly half white herself but that's a whole different story ;)
I'm honestly on the verge of just giving up and being like every girl out there. LOL, just please answers my questions, Thanks! :)
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Let's face it, guys are attracted to girls, that's life. Are there guys who find Black girls attractive. Yes there are. Guys regardless of race have a perception of what they find beautiful. Just like the girls do. Take you for instance, you're Black but you find White guys more attractive. Of course there are White guys who will find Black girls more attractive than other races.
You speak about your parents saying they don't mind if you date outside of your race. Personally I commend them, but the reality is that there are some people, some who happen to be parents with child(ren) of their own who don't share the same views. Again, it all falls upon the individual perception and it doesn't always fall upon the same beliefs as mainstream society.
As far as all Black women being "ghetto". We all know that this isn't true, but many times society will bestow negative traits of a select few upon a whole race and/or gender to justify their dislike for that particular race or gender. Some guys may even follow that stereotype to justify their own decision to date outside their race. It's sad that it happens, but the reality is that it does happen.
My advice to you is this. You're still young, and no doubt a beautiful Black woman. You have your whole life ahead of you so there's no need to give up on your dreams. You also have a lot of growing to do within yourself, many more academic challenges to focus on so you can build a successful career and life for yourself and any future children that you may have. Focus more on self improvement and eventually things will fall into place, even that love for a man (perhaps even a White man) who loves and adores you not because you're Black, but because you are uniquely and adorably you.