Simple question: How much older than your age would you date and why?
I think I would stick to under 10 years older than me, and even that is pushing it. If he was 5-10 older, I'd probably be extra cautious, so the guy would have to be pretty special for me to date him if he's that much older than I am.
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While there's no guarantee that any relationship will be successful, I think our decisions in the type of mate we choose can determine if it will be successful or not. Of course, even if we choose a mate chose to our own age group doesn't mean that the relationship will survive but I feel in doing so will increase the chances.
I have read the thread and while the guy who states guys much older have benefits of more financial stability, more faithful, but there are some older guys who do cheat as well. Also he forgot to mention that many of these older guys tend to have major control issues, can be manipulative and in some cases will try to isolate the younger girl for fear that she may be unfaithful with guys closer to her age. In terms of maturity, I really don't think there is a magic age to guarantee that someone will be mature. Granted odds will be in the much older guys favor, but I have met people in their 30's who carried themselves in a more mature fashion than guys in their 50's. In my opinion, maturity is more of a character issue than a rite of passage where it's automatic once someone reaches a certain age.
I also believe that the best chance for a relationship to flourish is if both parties share many common interests. That is in addition to a mutual attraction, ability to communicate and compassion towards one another.
This is subjective and everyone will have their own age ranges based on how they feel it best suits them, but for all intents and purposes I personally have a threshold of about 10 years. Generally I feel that anything beyond that would begin to push into different peer groups beyond that of my own and thus create a larger potential for incompatibility. Not to say that there's never an exception to the rule, because there sometimes is, but generally these exceptions come too few and far in between.
I know others will defend as much as a 20 year age gap, which for me would be a bit of a strain and I really don't see what couples with a 30 or 40 year age gap would have in common at all. While there are instances where these couples do exist, generally they don't last.0