How long do you date someone before it becomes a relationship?

Question is pretty straight forward... How long are you two dating/friends/talking before you feel comfortable asking to become exclusive? Like what is the social norm?

Also, please provide examples and situations :)

Thank you!

  • 1 week - a month
    25% (5)31% (5)28% (10)Vote
  • 1 month - 3 months
    60% (12)56% (9)58% (21)Vote
  • 3 months - 5 months
    5% (1)13% (2)8% (3)Vote
  • 6 months - one year
    10% (2)0% (0)6% (2)Vote
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I haven't had many girls do the poll, but I have found it interesting that men tend to want to have a relationship sooner than women. I would have thought it to be the other way around.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • It really depends on the couple. Never assume that you're exclusive, because that can cause a lot of misunderstandings. When you start to feel ready, bring it up with the man in question. Then, you'll know for sure where you stand. And if he's not ready to be exclusive, that doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't want to be with you. He might need more time. In that case, you would have to decide for yourself if it's worth waiting for a while, or leaving. Depending on your age and how long you've been together, there are lots of different situations.

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What Guys Said 4

  • I wait about 6 to 12 months before I make it official. I keep my options open this way if I notice something I don't like about her then I can just leave.

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  • I agree with most of what has been answered -- its relative and no "cookie cutter" time frame.

    Us guys tend to be more hesitant to have "the talk" and "define the relationship" but communication is key so the lines aren't blurred and both she and he know where they stand.

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  • It really depends on the person.

    Sometimes it would just take me a day. Others for a month. And Others would be after 3 months.

    It depends on the emotional connection.

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  • honestly id say about a month. its never for sure until its official tho. after a month with my ex, I asked her to be my girlfriend. altho I was the only guy she was hanging out with everyday and everything, other guys still hit on her and asked her out on dates. altho she was the one that asked for my number from mutual frends, hit me up to hang out, etc. ...i asked her to be my girlfriend because I wanted it to be exclusive and the thot of her going to the movies with other guys, getting treated to dinner etc. bothered me even tho she never accepted. likewise its on u.

    you shud probably have a couple options open before you do become exclusive so you know its what you want for sure. I feel that after a month or so, uve started to really get to know the person or have some idea and it shud be time to decide. just my outlook. I don't like the thot of dating girls that are dating multiple guys. we took the next step and I felt that we shud be exclusive after that... opinions vary depending on the person.

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What Girls Said 5

  • If he doesn't ask after 3 months I am leaving. if you like and desire me so much and I am good enough to hang out with you why on earth we are not official? You should want to sweep me up before someone else does. Anything past 3 months I am cutting contact you are wasting my time and youth. end of story

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  • Until he asks me to be his girlfriend and I feel like we've known each other enough.

    I'd say about a month :)

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  • Depends on how often you speak with each other. If you talk daily and want to be around this person I would say a month. If you haven't reached that point then it could be longer. It depends on the individuals.

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  • I'm one of those people who is automatically in a relationship right out of the gate.

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  • 3-5 months. By that time you know enough about the person to know if you are compatible.

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