So I am 20 and my boyfriend is 25. We haven't been dating for that long yet, about a month, but we've known each other/been friends for about 5 months. Even before we were dating he would casually bring up the topic of having kids with me. I am obviously not ready yet since I'm still in college, and he does say it would be after we get married so he's not pushing it. But he brings up the idea a lot! He is also an elementary teacher and adores kids. So in my case, is it not weird that he is always bringing up "our kids" after not dating for that long? Somehow I don't see how a guy would know he could see himself having kids with me after such a short period of time I think is my problem, so I'm being cautious. Or he could just really know what he wants by now.
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I would finish college first, secure your finances, purchase a home first (on your own, not with him) as I would suggest he do the same. You two have no business having kids yet. First, a month of dating and talking about kids already will lead to a disaster. How much do you know about him? How much do you know about his past? His family? What does he know about you? Is everything on the table with the both of you? Does he own a home? Does he have at least 50k in the bank? I know talking about money sounds like a cliche, but to be honest, kids cost money and so does having a family. I would wait till you are at least 28 before you make the decision of having a kid. You asked for an opinion, so there you go.1