I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 months..everything was going well till he spent the weekend with his family and kids from he's previous marriage.. he's very down, cancels our dates... he seems very sad when I call him, I have mentioned if he needs to talk, he can talk to me.. he said thank u... basically a brush off... he's canceled our dates twice... I asked him to meet me tomorrow after work, he's agreed, I just hope he does meet up with me...i care about this guy a great deal, I love the guy... I need some advice on how to handle the situation tomorrow.. I don't want to add more stress to the situation...
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Guys don't talk about their problems. How can you not know this at your age? Talking about our problems doesn't do anything for us.
If you want to be a supportive girlfriend, stop trying to make him into a girl. He doesn't want to talk about his feelings, or talk about his problems. That's what girls do.
Guys don't want empathy. We want to solve our problems on our own, without unsolicited advice. Unsolicited advice, while it may be well intentioned, conveys the message that "I don't think you can solve this on your own, so I'm going to help you, even though you didn't ask for it."
Take his mind off things - if he's brooding, let him brood a little, but drag him out of himself if need be. Remind him what it's like to have fun.1