If you care about the history:
I was dating this guy for a year and a half when I started to feel like something wasn't right. He still acted like he cared and everything he just didn't say he loved me as often and I just had a feeling something was off. So naturally I tried to spice things up. We had more sex and I tried to talk to him more and make him feel appreciated. I also did little surprises, I made him a phone background and while he was sleeping went to set it so that when he woke up he would see it. However, I saw that he had been texting another girl ( in ways indefinably crossing the line, he said she was the best and that he had her on a pedestal, talked about some pretty sexual topics ect.) I didn't want to see this but it helped me to see why things seemed different. I gave it a couple days of thought and then tried to talk to him about my feelings. He promised me that nothing was different and that there was nobody else, then I called him out. he said sorry and I told him I needed some time. Over a couple weeks I let it go, my feeling for him are stronger than letting it all go over text messages.
The current problem:
He told me that he doesn't want a relationship, and that it is not that he doesn't want one with me, he says it is that he is confused and just doesn't want the responsibility or commitment. He still says he loves me and to other I guess it could look like we are in a relationship. All I would like is an outsiders perspective on his mind set and what I should do about it. Thanks sorry about the wordiness :/ lol
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*sigh* girls these days... why do you need anybodys advice when its quite clear what his intentions are? well maybe he got sick of dating and doesn't take you seriously anymore for a relationship. but its clear that he doesn't want to be committed to you, because of something you may have done or not done. anyway too much complicated bs for me, making my head spin. people really have to make themselves clear with each other instead of beating around the bush like little immature children. maybe I'm just old fashioned like that. anyway good luck with your mess1