I acted insecure and needy to my boyfriend of 3 months so he started acting distant. I text him I am sorry if I might have pressured him and I was going to give him breathing room. I meant this nice not mean not a break up I heard nothing from him which was strange so that night I looked at the dating site we met on and he was on there. I text him did you break up with me and not tell me and he said no you broke up with me with your breathing room comment. So I called and explained I didn't mean it that way he said it was a misunderstanding and he would go off there but he was also mad I looked on there. So after I thought about it a while I asked him if he wanted to be broke up and he said no but he wanted to slow things down because part of him wasn't sure how he felt about me anymore. I want him to be happy so I said it is okay we can break up I think your a great guy and you will meet someone you have no doubts about and I will meet someone who accepts all of me and wished him luck. I was very nice and calm and I haven't talked to him since or tried to contact him. It has only been 2 days happened Friday night. So I do want him to be happy but I am also willing to work on my flaws so I can be the girl that makes him happy. I am giving him space but I am wondering he is on the dating site should I go back on there or would that make him dislike me more? Or would be probably not care. I am not sure what to do but if in a guys opinion it would make it difficult for him I don't want to do it. If he doesn't care or it makes my situation with him better I would like to do it. I don't know what I should be doing help anyone?
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You're a great catch. Keep that in mind. Most of us are actually looking for a woman that we can trust and be paid attention from. In the modern world of mini dates and micro-commitments, meeting someone who's actually into being around the person they're dating is nice.
Having said that, in this contemporary environment, you gotta be able to let go. That's the new version of holding on loosely. Blocking people is the new version of breaking up. Just imagine all the place-markers in relationships have been moved further away. Change your status to "single." He's now a friend with benefits. If he posts nasty things about you online, then he's blocked, and you've broken up.
When you're sick of players and find someone you are pretty sure is going to be monogamous with you, and you've cleared it with them first, then change your status to "in a relationship." Unless you're going to be poly-amorous in which case go with "it's complicated."
The Internet was envisioned as a place that brings us closer through sharing of ideas - but in actuality, it's added a vast chasm between most people. An entirely new aspect to social interaction. We can look in cyberspace for the perfect person, so it allows us to ignore those who are in the same room.
So keep your chin up and let it stay ambiguous until he gets back with you. Then don't change your status until you leave him hanging for a while, wondering why you're still listed as single.2