Things have been going really well between me and this guy I have been dating for 3 months. We had a fabulous date the other night, but when we were leaving the venue, he ran into a girl he knows from his childhood. He was hugging her for a solid 3 minutes and chatting with her. When he finally did introduce me, he patted me on the back and said this is "my friend...". Also, he has mentioned to me in the past that he was in love with this girl.
I have no issue with the fact he obviously has some feelings still (we all have a past). One thing I am insecure about is that he seems to be attracted to heavier women and I'm quite toned. This girl is heavier. Mostly, I'm really hurt he feels the need to let her know he's still available. Although we have never had 'the conversation' I (stupidly) assumed we were more than friends.
I tried to talk to him about how being ignored hurt me, but he reacted defensively and it turned into a fight. I don't know if I should just move on considering it hasn't been too long and this was a slimy move. Or should I give it a chance and continue to see him? I have some serious feelings for him, but (to be honest with myself) I do tend to get close to people easily. Perhaps he isn't as sensitive as I thought he was (as this move suggests).
Note as to where our 'relationship' is at, he called Saturday night to see if we had "implied" plans. I wouldn't have "implied" plans with a friend...
Thoughts? Please :)
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I don't think he was trying to tell her that he was still available. I think you two were obviously on two different stages in the relationship: You thought you guys were closer than you thought you were, and he thought the relationship was more casual than you thought it was. If you seriously have a problem with this, then you need to have the talk where the both of you come to an agreement as to where the both of you are in the relationship.1