Me and my boyfriend have been together about 3 years and lived together for one year. Things have been pretty great, or so I thought, until a girl messaged me on Facebook and sent me her and his conversation. They used to mess around along time ago and he was texting her asking if they were going to have sex again and things like that. She got mad because everyone knows we're together and sent it to me. Well when we talked, he was apologetic and crying for forgiveness and doesn't blame me if I want to end our relationship. We started talking more about our relationship and he announced to me that he feels lonely and unwanted a lot and so I'm thinkinghe was texting her for attention. It doesn't make it right but should I give him another chance? We have many future plans together and now I'm so confused and scared that if I give him another chance it may just happen again? Can I get a guys opinion on why he would do that? he tells me he is in love with me and begs for us to still work things out so it doesn't seem like he wants out. advice please :'(
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Forgive him. I know if I was in his place, I would be ashamed. If he is crying and is understanding enough to give you permission to end the relationship, then you probably have a good boyfriend there. In this case, I don't think he is saying that you should be the one to end the relationship. He is just being honest. Just give him another chance.
Although it doesn't make it right that he texted her for attention, at least now you know how he feels. Both of you can work together to improve so that this doesn't happen again. A good girlfriend (or boyfriend) is a forgiving girlfriend. It seems that he has good intentions, and he really is sorry, so you can forgive him. He will feel better and grateful if you forgive him. Besides, the person he texted already told you, so you have nothing to worry about anymore.
No matter the reason, you need to have good perception. With good perception you can look at body language and expressions, and you can actually see the intent behind a person's words. This is really helpful because you can tell if someone is telling the truth. In this case, I think he is telling the truth. No person would cry if they didn't feel regret.1
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