I met this guy at school about 5 months ago and we get along great. We have differences in politics but similar interests, similar morals/values, and both have ideas about what we want to do with out lives. Plus he is super sweet and caring towards me, even when flirting. However, he does some insecurities/ wanting to fit in issues that leads him to say some really stupid stuff so some people think he is annoying and he is white (actually one of few white people in our group at school which is mostly black). I think part of him trying to fit in is that he is black and feels unaccepted because he is white. Although I haven't told him like him, I talked to my mom about it because I thought she could give me some guidance. She told me to leave him alone because he doesn't know what he wants and wouldn't be respectful of my ethnicity (black) because of what he has said about our differences in political beliefs. Now I have a friend I have reconnected with and she is pushing me to date him even though I don't really know him (he is black). She says it's not a racial thing but yet I get pushed to date the black guys and they get more chances in spite of whatever than non-blacks :(
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I've dated outside my race and even married a black girl when I was younger, so here's my perspective:
Dating outside your race is difficult but expands your family's point of view.
Many of my close relatives who told black jokes don't tell them anymore, even when I'm not around, I'm told. One has even started telling off racists when they make slurs in front of them.
The bigger a**holes in the family understand I am pointless to share hate with. My blood pressure is lower when I'm around them because they shut up. I can still kick their asses, even though I'm a peaceful ex warrior. They flex and act tough and all that bullsh*t when my back is turned and I'm out of earshot now.
I was reading Ayn Rand when I met her. I was always a farm country Democrat, but we were basically Republicans who believed in subsidies.
After spending time with her and my new extended black family, I had my eyes opened. Now I've manned the phones for Obama, volunteered at soup kitchens and battered women's shelters, and had more fun with my black family than I ever thought I would.
For a sheltered rural white boy, I don't think there would have been much hope for me if I hadn't fallen in love with a beautiful black woman at just the right time. I'd be as closed minded as most, if it hadn't happened.
I think your white crush would have his eyes opened too, if you were willing to play the role of the Strong Black Woman and educate him. There are plenty of sites out there that debunk political beliefs. Check them out.
In addition, don't sweat it with your family and friends. Even if they call him White Devil to his back, when he's around he's going to feel welcomed. Black people are more accepting of whites in the home than you might expect.
Listen to the white guy telling you about black people. Hehe.