So the bed magic happened 10 days ago(after some drinks). We've been dating since the first of February. We're both in college and that's a priority..which means not much connection during the week. I'm 26, she's 24. I've sent a few texts here and there and eventually they all got a response. called her twice over the past 9 days and basically they got followed up with a text the next day. Couldn't line up anything last weekend with the girl( fri or sat). I realize this chick has a life outside of my dumbass but this isn't the reaction I was expecting after sleeping with one another. And it definitely wasn't my performance, she got hers in multiples haha.
I'm head over heels with this chick, and I'm being real careful not to come out as needy/desperate maybe too careful, she could be wondering why isn't he texting me or whatever ya know.. I mailed her a letter yesterday, something simple yet meaningful showing that I liked her.
I saw her at the gym today, unplanned. shot the sh*t for a moment and then started my workout. So. Imma chill for the most part. maybe try and call her in a day or so. I'm not one to chase, and I won't but I want her to know I'm still interested.
I guess the only sorta alarm with her is, I haven't been around her friends much at all. I'm the one to initiate 90% of the communication/dates. which is normal I suppose with this only being a couple months old.
So, what's her deal and how should I handle it?
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You initiating 90%? Is this normal for you? I think if she likes you, she would be texting you too, and making plans to see you, but that's just me. I'm a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve. If I like a guy, he knows. I want to spend time with him, I plan ahead. I will text him at least once or twice a day to see how his day is going, or just to talk to him.
You have to talk to her to see where you two are at. Have you had the official talk yet? Perhaps she doesn't feel the same way or maybe her feelings are waning. This is typical. The honeymoon period (usually the first 3 months) is starting to wear off.
Talk to her, find out what is up. It could be that she is just busy, or maybe she isn't feeling the same way.