Bit of context; I go to an all boys school, and might never see this girl again if this goes pear shaped...
I don't have her number yet , I asked her out over Facebook, but I don't really know if its a date or we're just meeting as friends (I'm happy either way tbh)
My biggest worry is that things will get awkward or something so she doesn't want to meet again, this will basically be my only chance to ensure we see each other again (and I would like to).
Should I offer to pay? Should I try to get her number (not if it goes badly obvs)
I like her alot, so if she feels the same way it will be fine, but there was a bit of a time lapse between her seeing my message and her responding (im probably over thinking that aren't I)..
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First of all, take a deep breath and try to relax. Just be yourself! Unless you're a psycho who is planning on stalking her or something, then don't be yourself please. Just think of it as a friendly meeting up with someone, don't put too much pressure on it. Don't think of it as your only chance, think of it as a chance. Take her someplace fun, maybe bowling or a walk in the park or something, or ask her what she fancies doing. Try to get to know her, talk about TV shows, hobbies, animals, school, how everything is at home, what kind of movies she likes, maybe some people you both know, ...
You could offer to pay, since you invited her and if you pay it'll seem more like a date, or if not we'll probably get a question here stating a guy paid for a night out and she wonders if it's a date.
At the end of the date, if you don't walk her home, ask her if she'll text you when she gets home (I always like it when a guy asks me that if he can't walk/drive me home, so it shows he cares), then the problem of the number will emerge and then you'll say: "here's my number, text me when you get home safely ok?".
Be a gentleman, listen to her, make some jokes, be a bit silly, but maybe open a door for her, let her go first, ... Stuff like that :)
Just relax, be yourself and try to have a good time. Don't force yourself to be funny, that won't work. Don't put too much pressure on it or you'll feel stressed and forced to be someone you're not.
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