Sunday comes, we meet, she looks gorgeous. We arrange to meet at a bar very local to both of us. We get there, we’re talking, I’m making her laugh, basically it’s going according to plan. Before we know it we’ve been at this bar for 5 hours talking, times flies when you’re having fun eh. Any we leave and I walk her to her car, she says she’s has a lovely time, we kiss. Just as she’s walking off I say I have something for her, run to my car and give her a black back full of small Easter eggs. She loves it, she’s kissing me again (yeah sweet ain’t i).
So she gets home, tells me she’s had a lovely night etc. We’re still talking like crazy at this point, I can tell she’s into me! On Tuesday she brings up our next meeting quite blatantly, “So when’s our second date?” I ask her when she’s free and she says “I’m free tomorrow”. I respond “ great, how about we meet up around 7:30?” ..
I heard nothing back, thought she’s probably dropped asleep because it’s late. I Woke up next day, still nothing, mid day nothing, evening still nothing. I’m generally a bit confused and I do something I NEVER DO….I sent someone a text who has not responded to my last text, this is something I NEVER DO! I’ll happily leave a situation on hold over this. I ask her how her days been , hoping she’d respond and explain what happened to her reply to my last message. She replies “ My days been good thanks, how has yours been?”
I was about to respond but then I took a step back, and analysed the situation. This girl is on a dating website, she’s gorgeous, she’s getting tons of messages. I’m thinking she’s clearly met someone else which is why she went cold on me.
I just deleted her number, didn’t respond and kept it moving. IMO anyone playing games this early on is not worth pursuing at all. Maybe there's a rational answer to her behavior ...and maybe Elvis is living in a airport hangover in area 51 with 2pac
So I'm on a dating website, not that I have trouble attracting girls it just my hectic lifestyle is working against me lately. Anyway I catch the intention of this lovely young woman, 29 years old, blond, gorgeous. She sends me what is essentially a poke, I didn’t respond as it’s lazy trade if you can’t be bothered to message someone IMO. About an hour later she messages me, I respond and we’re off talking. Maybe after about 3/4 hours of talking
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Ughh too many games in the dating world these days. In result, this experience will effect the all the other experiences you will have in the future. I am seeing a guy now that has had too many experiences like you recentenly did. Now it seems like it is all about who can appear less desperate than the other. Let's face it, we all want and need romance, we all want to find that one person we have a crazy connection with, and I have no problem admitting it. But all these games people play get in the way of people finding and establishing authentic and deep connections. As a female, my opinion is that this girl was interested initially. I would never sit for 5 hours talking with someone that I have no interest in, unless I had nothing better to do. Even so, I would never go along to kiss him especially on the first date if I didn't see myself wanting to see him again. Girls don't initiate texts (unless you REALLY like this person to the point you say f*** it, I don't care if I appear too clingy, I like him) otherwise, girls feel if a guy likes you he will do the chasing. It is like the tango, if he moves she moves. If he moves and girl doesn't move, she is likely not interested. But she texted you first and that means she was thinking about you so I guarantee she likes you. And I can tell you like her too, or else you wouldn't have posted this question on here. That "one to the next one" mentality will only lead to inner lonliness. I wouldn't have deleted her number so fast, you still could have kept her around as a friend with the possibilty that one day you two could give it a shot again. I'm not saying wait around for her, date other girls. But I'm just saying, you never know. But if I were you, I just would have bluntly brought it up again, "hey, I know you mentioned meeting up again, but I never got a response when I followed through. If you are still interested, great. If not we can still be friends." I guarantee she would have responded if she were truly interested or not. Hope it all works out!0