Do you see a trend in the type of girls/guys you're attracted to? Do you like people of a certain height, body type (slim, average, chubby, etc.), facial features, race, hair length, well-dressed/casual, other things...? Just curious.
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I have 2 types that I go for.
Type I is Big, Dumb, and Pretty. I may catch hell for admitting it, but there you have it. The BDPs are not relationship material. I call them my "chew toys". I have short-lived (shortest was maybe 2 weeks, longest was about 3 months) but extremely fun encounters with the BDPs and when we part ways I don't miss them, though I think fondly on occasion, though there isn't and there never was any feeling of being kindred spirits. They tend to be sweet-natured but dull. They are handsome and physically strong, and are usually younger than me by quite a bit. I like them clean-shaven and I lean toward the brunettes with light eyes (green or hazel, usually) but that isn't written in stone. They are all over 6 feet tall. They all have nice teeth and deep voices. They are all tattooed. Most of them have heavy, dramatic eyebrows. I also like a widow's peak hairline- go figure, right? Talking about stuff is not really a thing with the BDPs. The thing I hear the most from a BDP when they talk to me about me is some variation of being referred to as "weird" or "different". We meet, we do the stuff, we leave. I call them to deliver, or they call me to come for a visit.
Type II is Other. Those are the guys I get into relationships with. They are invariably smart, funny (to me), possessed of rapier-like wit, and usually display some sort of nerdery. Usually the Others are not what could be called traditionally handsome- they have been short or tall, or round or skinny, of varying hair colors and skin tones. A few of them were bald or balding. They all have had the ability to delight and/or surprize me. They are all well-read. They are all creative in some way. Typically they have some talent at which they excel (not a sexual talent) and are willing to teach/show/perform for/educate me. Thay have all been good with their hands, to some degree or another (again, no sexual meaning here) because I have little knack for that and I respect that ability in the fellas.
I am so firm in my preferences that my friends can spot either a BDP or an Other at 50 paces and at one glance. I never mix them. It's not that I don't think I could or should be in a relationship with a man who is Big and Pretty and also Smart and Funny- it's just that for whatever reason, I haven't found the one that would be the Venn Diagram Guy- where all the circles meet. That probably has more to do with me than it does with men- I'm in sort of a pattern, I guess, and I don't seem to deviate from it. Probably if I met Mr Venn Diagram, it would blow my mind and I wouldn't be able to do anything with him- I don't know. I don't like my food to touch, and I guess I don't like my men to run over into each other, either.
That's probably terrible and horrible and awful. Maybe I am a wretched sh*t of a person, but those are my types.1