My first date or hangout with this guy is going to be at the beach and I just know I'm going to be really self-conscious about my body. I'm not super overweight, I'm just not very toned and have a little belly. Plus I'm very pale and have a mole on my stomach.
I was thinking about just telling him that I don't have the greatest body so that he doesn't get his expectations up but this will probably just make me look super insecure (which I am to an extent). I just want to be straightforward with him. Or is that totally weird for a girl to say that upfront?
What are your thoughts/recommendations?
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What do you plan to wear? There's no rule that says you have to wear a bikini or anything as revealing as one. You could wear a more conservative bathing suit, or you could dress in regular clothes unless you plan on going in the water.
He may feel concerned about your self confidence if you tell him right away about how you feel about your body. I'm not saying you should lie to him, but I think it introduces awkwardness between the two of you if you have a discussion about your insecurities before your first date. You're going to the beach, and the beach is supposed to be fun. He's not going to stare at your body and analyze every possible good thing or bad thing about it. Just relax and have fun, but wear something that will make you comfortable.1