What's your opinion on interracial relationships? Yesterday my mom told me that I'm dating my boyfriend because I can't get anyone else. Do you think this is the case with most white girls dating black guys? Honestly, I know I'm not ugly. I don't have a lot of self esteem, but strangers always stop me to tell me how beautiful I am. I'm pretty sure I could get a different guy, but I don't want to. My boyfriend has an amazing heart, he's handsome, and hilarious too. We're almost always laughing, but we have really great, deep conversations too.
I don't care about the color of his skin, I like who he is and because he's so different than the other guys I know.
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First of all who you choose to date is your choice and your choice alone to make. Your mother may say hateful things to showcase her displeasure in the choice you made (being with a Black man) but she's not the one in the relationship with him, you are.
Let's take away race for a minute (it's obvious you're a White woman and he's a Black man) but you've already listed the positive qualities this man presents. What qualities do you find most appealing in ANY man. I'm not talking about physical qualities. I'm speaking about morality, personality and other "character" traits you find attractive. If he meets that criteria then I think you made a good choice, end of discussion.
Now to address your mother's behavior. I think it's morally wrong to deliberately attack the self esteem of your child just because they aren't living their lives in accordance to her beliefs. If anything, she should be more concerned with the safety and happiness of her children and not the physical appearance of the person they choose to date. She has to realize that even though you are her child, you are still your own individual, and what appeals to you may differ from what appeals to her. She also needs to understand that she is living her life based on her preferences as to what she feels is best for her. She really needs to allow you to do the same. You're connected by kinship but you still walk different paths in life. What she needs to do as a "concerned" parent is be there for you and offer you encouragement and guidance, be there if you need support and always do so in a constructive and loving fashion. Perhaps maybe some lessons in morality would be most beneficial for her and will allow her to see the things that are most important in the lives of her children instead of trying to mold them to follow her selfish and outdated views.1