My girlfriend recently broke up with me and we decided to go our separate ways. This is the first time I have joined a dating site, and to be honest I have never actually 'dated'. Most of my girlfriends were girls that I was on a swim team with so I got to know them before I actually started dating/having interest in them, if you know what I mean. So, in a first message to a girl on a dating site, what should I say? Better yet, girls, what do you look for in a first message from a guy on a dating site?
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I spent a while on Match till I met my boyfriend, so I can give you a few pointers (:
~Not too long, not too short. 3-6 sentences is good for a first email. I got a lot of emails that literally just said "hi" or "what's up?" That's fine in IM, but if you take the time to write a message, put a little more into it, please! But DON'T write a book--I had one guy who responded to every single sentence in my five paragraph bio as if it was a letter to him. Please don't do that. That's just creepy. A couple sentences responding to her bio and a couple sentences about you is a good mix.
~Most girls appreciate proper grammar and spelling. A few mistakes/typos are fine, we're all human, just make an effort. From your post, don't think this will be a problem for you. (:
~Don't ask for her number or email address in the first message or two. That's what scammers do. Just go through the site for a week or two till you've gotten to talk a bit.
And as for the guys who say "girls never respond!" make sure you meet her basic requirements first. I got a ton of messages, yes. But 95% of them were from guys who were either old enough to be my father or violated some of my other basic musts (mostly my faith preferences). If you don't fit what she says she's looking for, she probably won't respond.
Good luck! (:0