Yeah, well... I'm a 23 year old guy, and needless to say, I have had my fair share of dates from online dating; however, it seems to never be in my favour. My only true girlfriend was from Plenty of Fish (she cheated on me), a girl who I thought was nice became wayyy too attached way too quickly, and wouldn't let me leave her house... and last night, I was actually used by a girl for sex. I feel as if online dating is a waste of time, but then that is really my own option, as my social life is really not that thriving. I barely get to hang out with my friends (the few that I have) due to real life in the way, I am not into sports of any sort, I do not really go to the gym anymore (though I used to quite often, about two years ago)... so, yeah. I am at a loss. I am just pretty tired of ladies not going beyond sex with me... it seems like I am only worth sex to them, and that scares me.
Where do I go to meet people? Should I stick to online dating?
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I know exactly how you feel man. I'm the same age and I've had tons of dates from POF. I've had hookups and flings, but no relationship. The girl I felt closest to was just using me as a rebound and that hurt like hell and destroyed my self-esteem for a period. Off Pof, I've never seem to gotten past a 3rd or 4th date. It kinda made me worry about the same thing. Obviously my appearance isn't the issue, but it makes me think I'm not relationship material. I mean getting hookups is better than getting nothing at all, but hookups and one night stands are only fun for the night they last.
The main reason I use online dating is because I don't have many ways to meet women. When my friends have parties, the only girls there are their girlfriends. When I go to bars, it's usually people I went to high school with and I don't really care to date people I already knew from high school. It also makes it easier for me to find out who has common interests and see who's a better match.
As far as online dating goes, I would say keep searching. You could just be meeting the wrong people and it could take awhile to find the right one. After all, it's a numbers game. You can just use online dating in addition to meeting people at other places.0