I randomly stopped texting this one guy after I told him I wasn't in the mood (due to a 10 hr stupid road trip to the dunes) which is a lame excuse. And then I continued to ignore him for 3 days now after reading his first few responses and now everyday he continues to text things like:
-"(My name) I'm very passionate about you and everything so please talk to me I don't know what I'll do without you I f***ing miss you so much, it's literally tearing a hole..."
-"I f***ing love you I'll carve it on myself if I have to"
-"you're my inspiration, goal..."
-"I'm crying and crying"
These were in actual paragraphs through text, he sent me a picture of the scruff he grew, told that he has stopped eating and now I have 27 missed calls...
I'm sort of worried as I'm sure all of those who reading are for his health (if he is telling the truth, which I can only assume since he lives back in cal and I'm now in another area)...
I'm also worried because of how he's acting out, when we strictly have a flirtation-ship and nothing serious between us (I'm 18 and he's 19, I don't favor serious relationships @ our age especially long distance. Even though I'm visiting him over the summer again). I'm quite the stubborn person and so naturally, I want to continue ignoring him until he or I figure something out- sort of pushing the limits, but he did say he would never quit..
I feel like a bad person for trying to handle this situation (in his case, I don't know if it's anxiety, drama, self harm, and/or etc...) when I have a feeling it's just me & maybe he has a right to act this way...? Maybe I need the help with not being a bitch? Or is this a sign of a creepy cling on guy?
I'm obviously confused and slightly a bitch. Or a lot... I'll be satisfied with and can work with a tiny hint.
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NO. This is not in any way your fault. This is already unhealthy and is starting to border on emotional abuse. And the abuser is not you. It is him. He has absolutely no right to act this way.
Three days. Three. If he can't handle you being on your own for that long, when you are not even in a relationship, how do you think you will be if you give in to him? He will expect you to give in at all times, be always at his side, and do what he wants you to or face the consequences. And he will say it's because 'I loooooove you, look what you're doing to me," when that isn't true at all. Listen to yourself, you're already starting to blame yourself for what he's doing. That is what it sounds like when someone tolerates abuse from another person in a relationship. You need to walk away. Don't try to continue a relationship with an unstable person (and I don't just mean romantic relationships, friendships too).
Love is supposed to be healthy. Love respects both people and their time. You've given him enough respect. You are not obligated to give in to his demands, as they are ridiculous. He is being creepy. This is more than a red flag, it's warning flares and sirens. He's acting as though he's addicted and suffering withdrawal, and it would be a bad idea to enable his 'addiction' behavior by continuing to be his friend and tolerating his acting out.0