I don't know why I am obsessing with worry that my ex is mad at me and I am going crazy wanting to ask him if he is! I know it shouldn't matter, but I hate not knowing why his texts suddenly STOPPED last week. He came over and we had sex and that night he texted me during our favorite show and all seemed fine. During our time together his friend who he swears wants to date me came up and I told him I wasn't interested and everything, BUT I am worried he talked to his friend and somehow his friend said something negative to him about me or something and that's why he stopped texting me. I am probably SO WRONG and I know at the end of the day it doesn't matter. I know being his FRIEND isn't going to work ANYWAY so why am I OBSESSING over sending this damn text! It can end one of three ways: He texts back "No! I am not mad at you, why would you say that?" and then I know he just doesn't give a crap about me enough to text me anyway. or...he could send back that he IS mad and then that could start a fight or...he could ignore me and I will feel WORSE.
I think I already know your answers...but should I send the text so I can calm down or stay NC?
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I would love to be able to give you more advice, but I'd need to know more about your relationship to do so like how long you've been together, age differences, kids involved, etc..
For right now stay no contact until I hear from you...if in fact I do. I've been through this and got my ex back only to realize I really didn't want him back anyway :) But I will say the longer you stay in NC the better. Develop some mystery about yourself...what your doing, WHY you aren't texting (believe me he will wonder)...and who gives a crap if his friend told him something raunchy that made him upset...you know the truth. You CAN be someones friend after a heated relationship but it takes a very long time to come to that and I think you already know you aren't there yet.
I wish you the best and am here for more advice if you need it :)