first of all, this guy is friends with my cousin and her husband. he grew up with her husband and went to school with her. his family knows my family. for as long as I can remember they would always tell me I would love this guy. but us meeting never worked out, I was in a relationship or he was, or the plans fell through. this has been over a few years now. so recently I got out of a long relationship and so did he. and my cousin has invited me to come hang out with their friends for her birthday and he is going to be there. at first I was like cool yeah I'm down for putting myself out there again. now its getting closer, and my cousin told me her husband told him I'm going to be there. so I'm getting nervous for no reason. we are all meeting at a local billiard/bar/lounge. its not a one on one thing thank goodness. id rather just meet and be fun and friendly no pressure just have some fun. so what should I do? make sure to get him alone, or is that a bad idea? should I let him come to me? should I approach him? I have never been set up, but I know he knows they are trying to get us together so I don't want to ignore it. I honestly think I'm going to like him so I want to make sure I make the right impression. thanks in advance for any input :)
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Have no expectations.
Give it a try. Have fun and set it up so that whatever you do is fun, so if the person sucks, you can still have a good time.
Consider it a "Could be" date. It's not a date if you find out you don't like the person or if they're an @$$, but if you genuinely have fun then it's up to you if you take it as a date or not.
Blind dates are more like preseason games, or pre-dates. You go on one to see if you would want to have an actual date with that person.
Be friendly, relaxed and open minded. Just be yourself and let things happen naturally.
Don't be afraid to approach, don't be put off if someone approaches you.
If it's someone you've misses chances with or have thought about wanting to go out with or give a try, drop a few hints so they can pick up on them. Make and hold eye contact, make gentle random touches, smile, talk to the person. Say something ambivalent, like hey maybe it'd be fun to go out to karaoke sometime, or hint at other activities you might want that person to take you out to or go out to with you/invite you to.0