I've been dating a guy for the past 6 months. From the time we started dating I've never really considered him as a friend. We were introduced on a blind date and became exclusive a month later. He's really nice and respects me.
Over the past 6 months, I've always been more excited to hang out with my friends than him. We also don't have very similar senses of humor and that's really important to me. I've told him this and he's tried to make me laugh or understand my humor, but failed. Being able to laugh has a lot to do with who I bond with and is important to me in a relationship. I laugh with my friends all the time, but I don't want to be stuck in a laugh-less relationship despite it being otherwise healthy.
Does he need more time to get used to me? Should I talk to him again about it? Should I consider breaking up?
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There is a sense of loneliness and isolation that comes from not being understood, and I think that is often felt through humor. There is a certain sadness when making a joke in a room full of "don't get it" types and standing there being looked at as though from another planet. Aside from it being awkward, there is a genuine disconnection and it makes others feel "far."
I think its a big issue. I once heard it said that the substance of a joke is a serious thing casted in a strange light, or taken lightly or made silly of. A lot of not getting a joke is being unable to identify which is silly and which is serious. This could be underlying a severe difference in values you have not yet encountered in the relationship.