Hey, I've been dating this girl for a month now...things seem to be moving way too fast. We met on a dating type of site...it's like Facebook but for dating, not sure if I'm allowed to say the site name here...we have been seeing each other all of the time...she had me meet her Mom...my Mom happened to fly in for 3 days to visit so she met mine too...I think the relationship is moving way too quickly as is...but noticed that she was still in the dating site and listed as (Very Popular) which means she's been chatting with dudes...is that normal or should I confront her about it?
If you have been dating someone for a month, is it normal to still be on a dating site and active?
What Girls Said 3
I think that meeting online can kind of confuse the line between when it's time to delete the profiles and when it's okay to keep using them.
But I agree, if you two were a couple and she wanted you to stop using the site, she should also stop using it.
Now lucky for you she wasn't using it. She just hadn't deleted her profile. Hopefully this works out between you two.
If she lives at home you may have only met her Mom because Mom's are protective of their daughters. Her Mom may have just said if you're hanging out with someone from an online dating site I'd like to meet him. If anything I'd just talk to her about it. Any type of questions you have don't hold back. Plus if you haven't had any type of talk about being exclusive then I don't see a problem with her still talking to other guys.1
What Guys Said 3
It TOTALLY depends on if you had the "exclusivity talk" yet.
If not, then that's where interpretation is different. She may be assuming that you are active on a dating site because other guys she's dated have done the same.
My personal motto is: if you haven't explicitly talked about being exclusive, assume she is pursuing other guys as well.
In short, let her know that you are only interested in her and you're not pursuing other people (telling her this makes a huge difference),
and that you want her to do the same.
If she refuses, then you're gonna have to let her be and break things off.0
Are you sure you are dating and not "dating"?1
It's not normal.
That's like keeping your options open.2
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