Do you care what people would say if you dated out of your race?
I thought I wouldn't care but now that I'm thinking about it, I'm not so sure. I am Hispanic and I think the guy I like is middle eastern. I'm not sure from where, since I haven't asked but I know he's not Hispanic. We just get along so well, which is difficult for me to do because I'm so shy. But this guy is so awesome. I kind of want to ask him out or something. But then I think about what my family and friends would say. I know it shouldn't matter. Maybe they're not open to dating outside our race, and theyd only date white guys if they did, but I like guys from races other than Hispanics and whites. Since I was in elementary school, I had friends of many races. Whites, African Americans, asians, Indians, etc. So maybe that's why I'm open to date outside my race.
So basically, I'd be a bit embarrassed at first but oh well. They can't force me to date whoever they want. I'd get over my embarrassment.
What about you guys?
- I'd be embarrassed.Vote A
- I don't care what others say.Vote B
- See results.Vote C
Most Helpful Guy
First of all you have to realize that you have to live your life as best suited for you. Your parents can't live your life no more than you can live theirs.
Dating outside of your race will always win a few frowns and snide remarks, if not from certain family members or friends, then it will come from people in the community who tend to frown on such relationships. In fact, sometimes dating within your race will raise a few eyebrows, especially if the person your dating is deemed in one way or another "unfit" or "not good enough" in their eyes. In other words, their will always be issues, just maybe not as many if the person you're dating shares the same racial identity.
Personally, I tend to date more outside of my race than I do within it. I have no problems with it whatsoever because it is my choice. If I find a woman who I feel is attractive and we start dating. As long as were both happy within our relationship, then that's all that really matters.
In terms of embarrassment I don't have any. I am happy and I am proud of the woman I am with. Not because she happens to be a different race than I am, but simply for the fact that she's my woman and she makes me happy and content. Fortunately both our families respect our choices and we are well received by our families. When we're out in the community, for the most part, we don't have many problems. On occasion there will be someone who feels it's their civic duty to display their disapproval, but we really don't care, because at the end of the day, we have each other, not the uneducated throwback to medieval times.
So the gentleman you like is a different race. I don't feel why it should be an issue. If you both mutually like each other, enjoy each others company, shouldn't that be the only thing that matters? Certainly you shouldn't let the dissatisfaction of a few influence or come in between your happiness. If you want to go out with him, then by all means, pursue that option, not because he's a different race, but because you both have a mutual liking to one another. Never let others stand in between you and your happiness. As for your family and friends, if they truly care, they would want you to be happy. As for anyone else, it's really none of their business regardless of what choices you make.1
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