So I went on a first date with this guy on Thursday, we had so much fun that I went back to his house with him for one more beer. We had both been drinking and it was late. It started out great...he picked me up at 7, went to a nice restaurant then to a local pub, he was respectful, had good manners, we talked and laughed a lot and seem to have a lot of things in common but in the end I was tipsy and we had a marathon sex ALL night and I didn't get home until 7 am. I am worried now because I know I shouldn't have gone there...I have talked to him everyday since and we have a 2nd date set up for Thursday (my day off). I like him and hope something can happen between us. I don't want this to be a sex based thing so how do I tell him I'm looking for a relationship not just a booty call without scaring him?
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Yeah I worried about the same things as you when I first started dating my boyfriend. There's no certainty that you ruined it, especially if you two had fun beforehand and the sex was great and the fact you have another date planned (always a good sign).
Here's what I suggest:
2nd date: Have fun, no sex. Come up with an excuse if you need to. I used to set up an appointment on the same day so I had a reason to leave.
3rd date: have fun, no sex. Depending on how you feel about the guy and how he's reacting to you, maybe ask the question.
What I usually do is just go with the flow until the guy suggests we become official. If you hold out on sex and he asks why, then you have the chance to tell him the truth: "I don't know where this is headed."0