My ex girlfriend dumped me, said she wanted to remain friendly, which I did months after NC following the breakup.
Bu then she went frigid and even rude on me when she found out that I started dating again.
What gives? Some friends speculated that she was upset that I dated around again rather than crawl back to her, but does this make sense? Doesn't the dumper have to come back to the dumpee?
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First of all, neither the dumper nor the dumpee have to come back to each other. Nobody has to be "first".
You can't expect her to be direct in telling you anything, as this seems to be the kind of woman (not all women are like this) that expects you to read her mind. Communication is important, and if she doesn't like something, she should tell you about it instead of just reacting, which is just confusing you.
Whether or not she is used to guys chasing her, it's your choice if you want to be with someone else. It sounds like she's either jealous, or angry that you would move on, because by taking the first step, she probably feels like she has lost dominance.
You shouldn't get back with this woman because after the break up, she hurt you by attacking your feelings, ignoring the good times you had, saying that she would never call you, but that you could call her. It does sound like she's selfish and arrogant, because no nice person would say "I have a full life", not wanting to spend even a little amount of time with an ex (in this case you).
You're not being prideful. You have no obligation to be with her if you don't want to, and she's likely acting the she's acting because by you taking the first step in moving on, she feels like she is not the main attraction anymore.0